Even cowgirls get the blues :(

My work colleague just had a baby. She had three failed IVF protocols and finally it worked. She had a baby girl. Her name is Patricia.

Yesterday my work colleague texted me, “Oh…Beth.” Turns out she was depressed? They don’t call it post partum depression for nothing, right?

She was overwhelmed and feeling blue. I reassured her that she was dealing with a massive dip in hormones and that her chemical make-up of her body created the depression.

“I guess you are right. I just feel so awful. I wanted this for SO long. I went through SO much. I should be jumping over rainbows.”

Truth is, ladies (and gents), even those who made it through to the other side are still down. It’s not the sorrow of infertility and miscarriages and periods and doctors and needles and baby showers by oneself – it’s all of that leaving the body. It’s all of it going to the wayside to make room. Her sadness is the last of the bad stuff.

And the beginning of the good. (When her baby starts sleeping longer hours.)

20 Responses to Even cowgirls get the blues :(

  1. Bellacossina October 2, 2010 at 3:01 am #

    Does it ever get easier for us infertiles… and for those who cross the line? Send your friend a hug from me… from all of us. Infertility can suck it!

  2. Beth Katz October 2, 2010 at 3:26 pm #

    Infertility CAN suck it. :). You said it besy, girl!

  3. Beth Katz October 2, 2010 at 3:27 pm #

    *best. Gawd. I need coffee in a big way. 🙂

  4. Beth October 2, 2010 at 10:34 am #

    Bellacossina, having crossed the line myself, I will vouch and say it is totally easier because the end result is more important than the struggle.

    But, the struggle never goes away. You never forget. Difference is? The bitterness of the struggle becomes respect for those who are fighting to cross, too. Much love. Much love. Much.

    Infertility CAN suck it. 🙂

  5. dayspa October 5, 2010 at 4:34 am #

    Greatest movie ever! It is not meant to be realistic, but a fable about life…or, to quote the Countess: “Grandiose, lyrical, erotic…and Girl Scout-oriented. You can’t top it!”

  6. Trying to get Pregnant October 7, 2010 at 8:33 am #

    That is the correct format of a news story. Its what every writer for any major paper uses. The only huge thing I see as a problem with your story is once it reaches the “image four music filled days…” paragraph.

  7. Promotional Merchandise November 29, 2010 at 10:48 am #

    i feel like this song is about how all the singers friends have moved on with their lives and abandoned their childhood and he is still holding on to all the things he loved when he was younger (tom petty songs and driving old men crazy) and he is trying to convince a female friend to enjoy it with him for a while. something like that…

  8. Promotional Merchandise November 29, 2010 at 10:48 am #

    they r so in touch man er sumthin. sumthin bout them is like wow. Gaslight anthem, id be the best roadie ya’ll ever had.

  9. Dr. IVF November 30, 2010 at 6:49 pm #

    when doctors will be using iPads and iPhones to demonstrate to patient the procedure that they into?

  10. r4 ds December 7, 2010 at 4:49 am #

    No. Formula or breast milk until the baby is at least 1 year. Cow milk dosn’t have nearly enough of the fats or nutrients the baby needs to develope a healthy brain. Not to mention they typically can’t digest cow milk this early. Breast milk can take a few days to really come in. But, if she is worried she should be using formula.

  11. wooden furniture December 9, 2010 at 11:20 am #

    What is Blues?Can somebody tell me that and tell me some blues music please!!

  12. seo in india December 17, 2010 at 4:50 am #

    The concept of the blog is nice; but needs a greater sense of humor. As it stands it’s fun merely cause ppl are getting apoplectic fits at being pointed out their boo-boos that are, as is obvious from the comments, not all boo-boos.

  13. medical claims February 8, 2011 at 11:18 am #

    it’s all of that leaving the body. It’s all of it going to the wayside to make room. Her sadness is the last of the bad stuff.

  14. Santa Claus February 14, 2011 at 7:03 am #

    What are some country songs about horses and/or cowgirls? I am making picture slideshow for a friend of mine and need some music.
    (ex. How bout them cowgirls-george strait, cowgirl don’t cry-brooks and done, etc.)

  15. rattan furniture February 15, 2011 at 5:33 am #

    What do you think The Chink means when he says “I believe in everything, nothing is sacred. I believe in nothing, everything is sacred.” Thanks…

  16. rattan furniture February 15, 2011 at 5:34 am #

    It’s a very fun read, strange, unique, surprising, poetic, philosophical, and lots of humor. The star of Robbins’ production is Sissy Hankshaw, a woman born with over-sized thumbs. Thanks……

  17. rattan furniture February 15, 2011 at 5:34 am #

    I read this so long ago. I think he meant don’t take yourself too seriously, don’t think you are better than anyone else. Thanks…

  18. rattan furniture February 15, 2011 at 5:35 am #

    But she soon finds out that she is not destined to live an ordinary life. The descriptions Robbins uses are quite amazing and original. He also goes into great depth about philosophical issues that one might think are completely irrelevant to the plot of this novel. Thanks….

  19. rattan furniture February 15, 2011 at 5:35 am #

    Sissy turns her “deformity” into a tool that gives her live meaning, i.e. through hitchhiking. After living a life of constant motion, she is introduced to Julian Gitche, a man crazy in love with her who wants her to settle down and give up her extraordinary gift of hitchhiking. Thanks…..

  20. Handcdeal July 8, 2011 at 2:43 pm #

    I think it is important to note that women who take drugs to conceive are more likely to suffer from post pregnancy depression and anxiety. They are also more likely to suffer from extreme anxiety and depression during pregnancy, which is not something that people talk about often. It is not as though there is actually a choice, if you are taking these meds they are necessary for pregnancy but just something that people should be aware of and on the lookout for. 

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