Don’t stress during IVF

Prior to my IVF protocol, I got so many tips from so many women.  I did.  Eat this, don’t eat that, exercise this, don’t exercise that.  Coupled with the some others I met in the waiting room, holding lucky talismans and praying out loud, I realized early on that IVF was a LOT about circumstances.  But with a little bit of patience?  Circumstances COULD work in any one woman’s favor.

I took a break from my highly stressful job in entertainment.  Working 100 plus hours a week was not great for my mental and physical health (chicken parm at 3A was dinner.)  To this day, I do wonder if work stress was a factor in some of my infertility.

Not many women are able to scale back on their work load but luckily, at age 38, I was established just enough to know when well, it was enough.  I asked for a “hiatus” and spent those weeks going to my many IVF appointments on time.  I took baths.  I read good books.  I spoke to old friends. And had time to spend with my family.  What a luxury.

And I breathed.  I didn’t run for my bus any longer.  I took my time.  I didn’t stay on my feet 16 hours a day.  I sat when I was tired.  I smiled at the simple things, like a funny looking , cute dog with a long tongue.  And I cried at movies made in the 1940’s.  Just because I had the time to see them and well, because I could.

I did acupuncture.  I went on walks.  I listened to music on my ipod.  I just took it easy on my mind and body.

My circumstances changed because I learned to be more patient in my daily life.  If the paper didn’t come on time, it was no big deal.  I had plans to go the Botanical Gardens so the paper could wait.

Again, not everyone has or had the luxury I was blessed with.  Twenty years in a crazy line of work was what earned me my right to take a break.  Sure, the lack of income was a factor but the time for my IVF was necessary.  I needed that reward because otherwise, I might never have had a successful protocol.

If one could have the time as I had?  Great.  If not?  I highly recommend a few hours or at LEAST some time to spare for yourself.  If work lingers too long, stretch when no one is around and get those creaking joints limber.  Read even a few pages of a good book.  Make one phone call a day to someone you love.  Wear a favorite necklace or perfume.  Just do ONE thing a day to treat yourself humanly.

That way, during your IVF check-ups, you can feel like a mother – a woman juggling her time for her baby who also takes a nice bubble bath when the baby is safely sleeping.  There is nothing wrong with that hypothetical bubble bath.  Even if it is in a sea of baby bath toys and towels with tiny hoods.

4 Responses to Don’t stress during IVF

  1. mymiracles77 January 26, 2010 at 3:29 pm #

    I so agree! I was so glad to have the summer off while I did my IVF and I did most things you did here just to really stay stress free! Great post!!

  2. Anxiety Sydney January 27, 2010 at 3:44 am #

    Maybe you could pass on a website to her to help her come to terms with IVF. I have posted on this website for a few years and the support and advice I have gotten from the women there is amazing.

  3. Beth January 29, 2010 at 4:49 pm #

    Anxiety Sydney, I would LOVE to. What web site do you prefer? I enjoy talking about this process because it helps so many others when the info and feelings are out there.

    My Miracles, yeah? See, it totally DOES help. I am glad you had the summer off. That's awesome.

    Stress Free IF – thanks!

  4. facelift January 30, 2010 at 4:12 am #

    Maybe you could pass on a website to her to help her come to terms with IVF. I have posted on this website for a few years and the support and advice I have gotten from the women there is amazing. Plus, it is online so she doesn’t have to deal with the embarrassment of talking about her issues and feelings face to face.

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